46 here and already experiencing some menopausal symptoms like fatigue, insomnia and brain fog. I’m convinced I’m in perimenopause, but my doctor says I’m too young. Is there a way to “prove” it’s menopausal? I’m feeling very dismissed and frustrated and want some answers! How did y’all figure out it was perimenopause and how long did it take?
- Abril, El Paso
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Anonymous6 years ago
Following. 39 here and I just missed a period I’m single and have not been sexually active for 3 years so I’m not pregnant and I have all the symptoms.
Lu6 years ago
Same for me. I’m 38 and last 18 months I’ve had lots of symptoms, periods changing dramatically, definitely not pregnant. But dismissed by GP as hormone levels are still in ‘normal’ range
Robinreplying to Lu6 years ago
I’m 38 also, I’ve had 4 test done by my obgyn and each test proved that I am in menopause. He was in disbelief so he wanted me to test again. I had a baby and a year later I went straight to menopause. Some people say it’s a good thing because no more periods, but no one warns you about the moments you do not feel like yourself or the mood swings, night sweats......... there is no ways to cope, just learning to adapt. Menopause sucks.
Linda6 years ago
Hi ?? do you know your body better than anybody I started around the same age 4649 now my body no longer belongs to me. All I say to you exercise exercise exercise this soon shall pass. But for now eat healthy and pace yourself
Bonnie6 years ago
I’m 46 and going through this now... What sort of exercise do you do? and how long did it take till no periods? I know we are all different but I don’t think I can do this for another 5yrs. Last week was so tough, then my period showed up on day 17 and I’m still going...so not normal... today I had a tonne if Energy so I put it to good use and clean my house LoL
Pattireplying to Bonnie6 years ago
I agree- exercise is saving me. I exercise every other day and do 1/2 of weights using an online program. I also try to avoid wheat and sugar and that helps a lot.
Anonymous6 years ago
Hello. I’m 47 and some skipped periods & hot flushes seemed to convince my doctor.
Shirl6 years ago
Hi, I think for me, at first I noticed my monthly cycle became a but unpredictable for a couple is years. At first I thought it might be down to stress as that does effect my cycle. But looking back it was due to things gradually slowing down and entering the pre menopause stage. Then last year suddenly I started getting hot flushes and the interval between cycles started getting longer between 3-5 months. I was able to help myself at that stage by losing weight and incorporating more grains and seeds into my diet. Also more Soya and Tofu. By changing my lifestyle I was able to reduce the brain fog and the flushes especially, from 2 an hour to 4-5 a day. Now it’s getting harder to control the flushes so I’m trying HRT. For me it was definitely a gradual slow winding down process and it was a few years before the more obvious symptoms like the hot flushes, started.
Rachel6 years ago
Go and see another doctor! The normal age range for peri is between 45 and 55. I got my first symptoms at 46 as well. All it takes to find out is a hormone balance check up, a simple blood test. Before the age of 40 is premature. Before 45 is early From 45 onwards is normal. I had the same symptoms, plus the hot flushes were starting as well. The brain fog is awful, I literally thought I was losing my mind. I even looked up the symptoms for dementia, that’s how worried I was. Brain fog, fatigue, feeling lethargic, anxious, depressed, overwhelmed, scared of anything, I was waking up 5 or 6 times every night, etc. The list of symptoms is endless unfortunately. I suddenly felt like I was no longer “myself”, it was soul destroying. I am now on HRT, and it has made a huge difference. It doesn’t erase all the symptoms, but life is a lot more bearable and manageable now. I hope you can find a doctor who will listen and take action. Don’t take no for an answer, you know your body better than anyone. Best of luck! X
Amy6 years ago
I am so sorry you are dealing with this! It sounds like my menopause story as well. It is really draining. It has to get better, right?
Bonnie6 years ago
Ever since I had kids my body has not felt like my own...does it get worse?
Mandy6 years ago
Actually the gyno I saw said the normal age for perimenopause is actually 40-50 some people are in the middle of meno by 45 due our fast paced living now
Annie6 years ago
Hi, I am 47 and relatively healthy, my period cycle has always been very regular and so it was quite a shock when it did change. It changed In the last 3 years and now it’s been a year since my last period so I know I am in menopause now. I will get for a check after lockdown but it is a gradual process for sure. I never had children and do feel a bit sad that I won’t have any now but it’s life and it’s the cards your dealt with!!
Bonnie6 years ago
I sure hope mine is quick like yours!! Taking all the supplements to keep my head space positive.
Anonymous6 years ago
Hi Annie, I am soon to be 47 and have always been told I’m probably too young to be peri menopausal... but I never had children and I wonder if our bodies go through menopause slightly earlier because of that??? My periods were always regular and in the past year maybe 18 months they have become irregular with a little bleeding in between. It’s really disconcerting but as you say, it’s t he cards we are dealt xx
Sinéadreplying to Anonymous6 years ago
I think you might be on to something there. I’m 45 and started getting irregular periods two years ago. I’ve just gone 6 months now without a period and 45 is pretty young to be going through perimenopause but I also did not have any children. I did go to the doctor and ask for a blood test to check hormonal levels and the result was that I had elevated FSH levels. That with the irregular periods led him to diagnose that I am in the perimenopause stage. I can’t hide that I was disappointed as I thought there might still be a chance for children but I am learning to accept the cards I have been dealt too. I have had many of the symptoms, brain fog, hot flushes at night, fatigue, mood swings and it’s like someone turned off the interested in Dec switch! The symptoms can be hard to deal with some days especially when in my head I didn’t think I’d be going through the menopause until my 50’s!
Heather6 years ago
I had last period 7 months ago but experience most all symptoms so I don't even know what part of menopause I'm in and my Dr is clueless ???
MW5 years ago
This is me too! Just turned 48 and never had children. Periods became lighter and more infrequent over the last 3 years, with 8 months since the last. Other symptoms have not been much of an issue, but I’m conscious of the need to look after myself (supplements, minimal alcohol, diet etc). Also feel sad that this part of my life is over.
Anonymous6 years ago
I’m 38 & started showing symptoms more than a year ago. I just thought it was stress but now that my period has got a mind of its own I really think I am going through peri menopause. My daughters have commented on how emotional and moody I can be at times. My issue is I know if I speak to my doctor they will tell me I’m way too young. But in my mother’s side this is a very common occurrence.
Anonymous6 years ago
Hi hope you don’t mind me saying but 38 is young. You probably could do with going to your doctor and asking for blood tests to confirm it. If correct then they may want to suggest HRT or regular health checks. Early menopause can be problematic later in life as there is more chance of developing things like osteoporosis and other related problem.
Anonymousreplying to Anonymous6 years ago
Peri menopause can start in your 30s, it’s the time leading up to menopause which can last 10 years. You cannot have a blood test to confirm peri menopause because of hormones fluctuating on a daily basis, only when you haven’t had a period for at least 12 months have you reached menopause & this can be confirm with a blood test.
Anonymous6 years ago
38 is not too young to be in peri menopause, especially if it’s in the family history. Maybe try another doctor & keep a diary of your symptoms/cycle. Peri can last from a few months to 10 years.
Anonymous6 years ago
My mum was 38 and my sister was 40 so when I started having symptoms at 44 I was late compared to my family! Neither of them had HRT and both are fine now. Everyone is different- you know your body better than anyone else.
Lu6 years ago
I’m similar to you. 38, symptoms for about 18 months. GP said I’m too young and my hormone levels were low side of ‘normal’. But my mum started peri at 39 and her mum was apparently 41 when she started.
Anonymous6 years ago
I’m37, went to the dr because of irregularities and they did a blood test for a few things. Came back that I had low hormones, and peri menopausal. I feel way too young, and am planning on going to an obgyn to confirm. My mom was not this young and it doesn’t seem to run in my family.
Anonymousreplying to Anonymous5 years ago
I’m 38 and have symptoms. My paternal grandmother hit menopause at 32 so it really does depend on your genes. I’m glad to have made it this far given my family history. Shame I didn’t find the right man in time though... I hope you manage to get the medical advice you need.
Rebecca6 years ago
I am reading a book about the menopause and the author says this - “Is this menopause?” is a self- answering question. As soon as you ask, consider the process begun. I agree with the person who says you know your body better than your GP does. Fatigue, insomnia and brain fog are things you can take vitamin supplements for. I started taking ginseng and gingko biloba and Menopace for my symptoms which were anxiety, brain fog - mostly really awful memory, fatigue and the odd hot flush. When I saw my GP, my irregular periods and my age (46) were enough evidence. She gave me the option of HRT or Sertraline and I didn’t want to take either so went down the supplement route.
Coco6 years ago
Those symptoms sound like mine: I shall try the supplements, thank you!
Rebeccareplying to Coco6 years ago
I didn’t have a period for several months and then they came back. When they came back my symptoms completely disappeared so I was really glad I hadn’t taken “real” drugs yet. I started writing things down so I wouldn’t forget stuff though I’d then forget I’d written stuff down! The symptoms come and go now but they’re never as bad as they were in those first few months. Hang on in there. X
Bonnie6 years ago
I take black cohosh & vitex tinctures along with some other Adaptogens as I also have Hashimoto’s, over lapping with the brain fog and all the other emotions is a constant battle...have to keep on top of my game with diet and lifestyle. Today has been my best day this month!
Lena6 years ago
Hi I was the same my doctor said I was too young at 46yrs. I first started missing periods for 3 months then they started again, then my periods were very light. I had night sweats I would go through 2/3 T-shirt’s a night. I’m 49 now & the sweats have stopped but I get the occasion hot flush. My weight has increased even though I exercise daily, but it’s just round my middle so jeans are a bit tight. I would either ask your doctor for a test as this can be done but they don’t like to do it unless you have lots if symptoms. I am not taking HRT I control it through food & diet. If you can talk to a friend who is going through the menopause or speak to your mum as I’m sure she has been through it. Stay strong & do exercise gentle or strenuous it will make you feel better in yourself.
Cathy6 years ago
I would see another GP. Perimenopause can start later thirties. At the very least your GP should be doing blood tests to rule out any other health condition that could be causing those symptoms. I started at 41 I am now 45 and things are starting to change dramatically for me but I have HRT to assist me through
Anonymous6 years ago
Am 49 and think I have been peri-menopausal for several years. Fatigue, sleeplessness, brain fog, anxiety (including panic attacks), night sweats and VERY heavy periods were all my symptoms. Initially put it down to stress as work was ridiculous but have since resigned and some symptoms remain. Periods are also becoming very erratic. Looking back I think I was definitely peri-menopausal but wasn’t aware this was an issue and work confused symptoms. Exercise (yoga, walking and the occasional run) have helped as well as a more balanced diet - less stress eating (sugar) and soya based products have helped. Am going to go back to the doctors as the fatigue is wearing. Some friends have done hrt and swear by it, others have had an oestrogen coil fitted and also say that has helped. There is a feeling that it Is what it is but it certainly impacted work. Keep going back if you’re worried and read up ... black cohosh helped and water!! Wasn’t drinking anywhere near enough.
May6 years ago
Hi, you can do a hormonal blood test and find out if it’s hormonal or vitamin’s missing. I started with 40th and they said the same so I pay for a hormonal blood test so my GP couldn’t deny and I start a process to help me with the symptoms
Amy6 years ago
I started around 46 as well. (52 now). For me I asked my Doctor to do a blood test to measure my hormone levels. Mine were markedly down. I was dismissed by several docs, female mostly, but finally had a family physician order the test. My symptoms started as weight gain, joint pain, skin getting more dry and wrinkly and hot flashes. I now suffer from hot flashes around every hour, brain fog, and belly fat.
Anne6 years ago
I’m sorry Amy. This is no fun.
Katrina6 years ago
I fee your pain, I experience all these and I’m only 41. Don’t dare bring it up to my wonderful DO pcp but I’ve decided I don’t need a test to tell me what I already know. Who knows our bodies better than us anyways?? ???
Samreplying to Katrina6 years ago
Well said Katrina!
Spotty Dotty6 years ago
Hi! I’m in exactly the same position- 46 and experiencing symptoms which can be nothing other than menopause. My doctor is sympathetic but apparently not easy to detect the hormonal changes with a simple test; the test has to be done on a specific day of your cycle. I don’t know about your cycle, but mine can change so can’t always get a doctor’s appointment on the exact day!! I would suggest, if you’re getting the symptoms, you’re in it!! I’ve been tracking back my brain fog symptom- I was 39.
Anonymous6 years ago
I’m 46 , have regular periods although have become heavier. I have had symptoms which have continued to worsen since last year, constant tiredness, joint aching, hair loss, bad skin, irritability, mood swings , sweating buckets during the night and With minimum exercise, constipation and bloating, Brain fog . GP has been very dismissive and offered antidepressants. I have changed my diet, increased exercise, given up alcohol, spent a fortune on herbal supplements, started meditation and lockdown has taken away any work stress. GP would not refer me on the NHS so I’ve spoken to a private gyno who has suggested HRT patches which I am to start soon. This has been a very lonely experience and not talked about enough. I feel as though I wouldn’t be able to speak to my all male management employer without jeopardising my job but these symptoms have really proven difficult to cope with whilst working full time and juggling family life . I get the sense that GP’s are not trained enough on this matter unfortunately. Please do not suffer in silence and get help rather than putting up with these horrible symptoms.
MelB6 years ago
It’s unbelievable about how clueless most GPs are. Last year I had the worst year of my life. I felt absolutely dreadful. I’m 52, periods have all but stopped, I’d got pains in my muscles and joints, tired, brain fog, couldn’t get my words out. Then a menopause expert gave a talk at work and it was a massive light bulb moment. I went to my GP and requested HRT patches and they’ve completely transformed my life. It’s a devil getting hold of them because of supply problems so I’m on a gel and tablets. I can’t believe with all the symptoms I had and not once did my GP mention it could be menopause! I really recommend The Haynes Menopause Manual - check it’s out on Amazon
Anonymousreplying to MelB6 years ago
I’m starting mine next week for the first time and I’m pretty anxious surprisingly
Anonymousreplying to Anonymous6 years ago
Did you find HRT patches in the U.K.? Seems all chemist are out of stock?
Anonymousreplying to Anonymous6 years ago
Did not have a problem through Boots getting them although online I read there was supply problems.
Amyreplying to MelB6 years ago
Question, does HRT start your period again? I had an ablation in 2006 and have not had a period since. I too was dismissed by my OBGYN and GP.
Anonymous6 years ago
I’ve definitely been turning a hormonal corner since my mid thirties. My mother was finished with the Big M at 49. So far everything about my cycle, being pregnant etc has followed her. I know my body better than any GP. A test is only a snapshot in time anyway. I am warmer and foggier. So far it’s alright, but I seem to be developing an intolerance to dairy. I get the odd hot flash which makes me shake and feel sick. I’m drinking more gin and swearing more, but I’m unapologetic about that. The sooner it comes the sooner it’s over! I’m on cerazette which although not brilliant, keeps a tab on the flow issues. Probiotics have also worked for me.
Mel6 years ago
I started at age 45, my Mum was the same, My then g.p wasn’t very knowledgeable about perimenopause so I went to see a different g.p and she has been great. Trust how your body is feeling, you know when things aren’t right.
Alison6 years ago
I’ve had no period for over a year now so I’m menopausal and I’m only 47. I was perimenopausal from looking back I’d say about the age of 41. I had all the symptoms- fatigue, insomnia, terrible period pain, anxiety, joint pain etc but no-one put it together until one female doctor who tested me to see if I was peri menopausal at the age of 44 and I was. You are not too young. Get another opinion! Preferably a doctor who knows about menopause as too often they don’t seem to see the big picture. Good luck. x
Coco6 years ago
I'm in the same boat: I'm 48 next week, and my periods are mostly regular (with the odd anomaly), but the brain fog, lethargy and aphasia had me genuinely convinced I had Alzheimer's (my Grandad had it). My mood swings are getting more extreme and the cramps are getting unbearable, but I'm not really getting the hot flushes or night sweats--so I still don't know if I am actually perimenopausal or just a hate-filled old bat! ?
Sam6 years ago
Haha I wonder this about myself too! ?
Dizzy Drawers5 years ago
Hi Coco, I’m 48 & I’m in the same boat as you except when I miss the odd period, I experience 3 week’s worth of hot flushes (Lockdown was a bit crap.). I can’t remember a lot of basic, general stuff & my mood swings can be horrendous to the point I think I’m absolutely losing the plot. I’ve restarted Magnesium & vitamin B6 & have noticed some improvement. Thank God for this Menopause community...a lifeline!
Anonymous6 years ago
Hi, I’m 49 and having noughts of depression, paranoia, anxiety, this has happened twice in a two week periods. I’m feeling pretty rubbish tbh. I’ve had som period interruption but that could be stress as I’ve had big life changes. I’m trying not to allow this to take over my life but I’m really struggling.
Anne6 years ago
I’m so sorry. Getting older isn’t fun. Sharing you struggles with others is helpful, because we are experiencing similar symptoms. You aren’t alone. Hang in there and may God be with you.
Alicia6 years ago
I am 42 and was having night sweats and a very heavy period that wasn’t stopping. My Dr said I was too young for peri menopause and said it sounded more like HIV ? so she ran a blood test and the results showed I was in peri menopause and HIV was negative. So request a blood test to know for sure.
Jennie6 years ago
Peri menopause can certainly start in late 30s, I’m 45 & have had aching joints & migraines start 18 months ago. Now I’m getting total exhaustion where I struggle to get out of bed! Bloating, no appetite, ibs, nausea, itchy groin, heart palpitations, hot flashes then freezing cold, but the health anxiety has been awful I’ve never suffered from anxiety but it’s just an horrific feeling of doom, my doctor is 99% sure it’s peri menopause but because your hormones fluctuate daily/hourly there is no way of knowing by blood tests.
Kimberly6 years ago
All of this is happening to me too! I’m 45 and my symptoms really sound like yours. I’m devastated and feel so ashamed and embarrassed of who I am now. Months ago I felt like a 44 year old baddass! Now I don’t even want to crawl out into the world.
Anonymous6 years ago
I’m kinda new to this but have been experiencing what feels like heart burn. I started taking my blood pressure daily because I was concerned about high blood pressure but my blood pressure is normal. Is the heart palpitations like heart burn? I just turned 48 and for the past year I’ve had very heavy periods and then all of a sudden I didn’t have one this month. I have breast pain almost daily. And am now feeling tired all the time. But the heart burn has been the most concerning. I haven’t gone to the Dr yet because of the whole COVID thing
Anonymous6 years ago
I’m suffering headaches and ear pain. I can constantly feel my ear drums throbbing and hear my heart beat up a this a typical symptom of menopause ?
Coco6 years ago
idk if it's a peri symptom or now, but it's one I've been having too. Horrible headaches wrapped around the base of my skull, and I can hear my pulse 'whooshing' in my ears. It's good to know it's not just me, so thank you!
Anonymous6 years ago
My doctor did an FSH (which showed I was menopausal) when I started getting really irregular and I went 2 months without a cycle with hot flashes, then I got my menses, heavy, cramps, then got it again 20 days later. I’m now on day 22 of my cycle feeling like yuck with bloat and campiness and with intermittent hot flashes again. I’m over this craziness but from I read this can go on for years. Doc relates this all to being perimenopausal.
Lainey6 years ago
Yep FSH (follicle stimulating hormone) can be tested and you get a number result which tells you were you are in the fertility scale, search online. I think it can also vary depending on the time of the month you have it taken too, think theres an optimal time, like mid-month, check though, can’t remember. Hope that will help!
Phoebe6 years ago
I’m 42 and had my last child at the age of 38. I’ve not had a period since March of this year and these hot flashes are happening daily at least 3 times a day. I’m feeling so much anxiety and this pandemic is certainly not helping. I work from home but also trying to keep my 3 kids entertained. My GP says I’m going through premenopausal and it could last at least a few more years. No real guidance given so I just pray daily. Any suggestions would be great ?
Robin6 years ago
Hi Phoebe, I can relate. I had my first and only child at 36 and started premature menopause at 38. I haven’t had a period in 6 months as of this year. My obgyn tested me 4 times and could believe it. Anywho, being pretty new to this myself. It’s about accepting and adapting to the new you. I’ve switched up my diet and started incorporating more fruits and veggies. It’s all about doing research for yourself that going to be beneficial for you. I found a lot of info on Pinterest, like if you type in menopause diets and supplements. I’m also reading The Menopause Switch by Dr Carissa Alinat. I found that on Amazon. If you like the herb sage, there is a brand called Republic of Tea on there website, they make a Sage Tea that is made for hot flashes. It has been an absolute god send. It has lessened my hot flashes, you can drink it hot or cold. It’s all about bring the focus to you so you can be well for your kids. I limited my alcohol intake and slowed down the spicy food, they both enhance the anxiety. Drinking more water helps especially during hot flashes, slow deep breathing and I’ve been doing Leslie Sansome for walking exercises, she has free videos on YouTube that you can do indoor if it’s too hot to be outside. It’s all about getting back to you because if your not okay you won’t be able to give your 100% to your family. Since I don’t want to do Hrt treatment yet, I’ve been looking into vitamins menopausal women need so we need more vitamin d, vitamin e, calcium, magnesium and b complex, as well as a good probiotic. Just find what works well for you. Stay safe and take care.
Cilb6 years ago
Phoebe have you tried any herbal supplements? Viridian and Pukka do a herbal supplement for menopausal women that might be worth trying? A good vitamin B complex has helped me a lot with anxiety, dry nails and fatigue. I took the Viridian high five multivitamin. I suffer with bad acid reflux which has caused me oesophagitis and gartritis! About to start taking some Slippery Elm supplements in the hope that will help me to get off esomeprazole and omeprazole. You can find these supplements on good natural supplements websites like body kind or in the Viridian website. All the best to you!
Lily6 years ago
I’m 44 and had symptoms that I believe to be the peri menopause for about two years. Disturbed sleep, hot flushes at night before and during my period, intense itchiness like my skin is about to burst, spells of anger/irritability, anxiety, weight gain around my middle, erratic sex drive, weird headaches, strange tongue sensations, aching joints, overwhelming. unexplained fatigue, feelings of loss/terrible sadness, inability to think straight or concentrate, forgetfulness, and minor injuries/accidents due to bad spatial awareness. My cycle is irregular, can go over three months with no period, then have two bleeds in forty days. Bleeding has been a lot heavier or much lighter, and when it’s heavy just feel awful for a few days. The mental effects are the hardest to deal with as they bring me lower than the physical. I hate the brain fog. I feel like, what happened and where did I go? Sometimes I have moments, days, a week maybe where it all seems to stop and clarity is back, I can cope again. The veil is lifted, things make sense again, I can plan again, get things done. That’s what makes me think it is the peri menopause. It’s like being on a mad see-saw. Like puberty, without the exciting all-your-life-ahead of you aspect. And sleep is no longer a friend you can rely upon. One plus, I am getting more assertive, care less about pleasing and being nice than I did previously. It is forcing me to take more care of myself. I just hope it doesn’t drag on and on like this for years. Wishing everyone out there going through it the best with it.
MelJ6 years ago
Lily, your experience is very much like my own ? and that week where all is lifted gives false hope! The only time my clothes and hair and make up look good, food is cooked with relish, I get work done and the DD happy to have a normal mum. The rest of the time I blubber from inadequate to clumsy to forgetful to untidy house, to missed work deadlines and hair like a birds nest and possibly undertaking video meetings in pjs (last week and I didn’t brush my teeth). Good luck to you too ???
Stacey6 years ago
Hey Lily. I am 44 as well and though my period has been regular for a year now (I had the coil in for years so I didn’t get periods), I can see changes beginning slowly. I’ve been wondering if a lot of my symptoms are PMS so I am really zooming in and paying attention to the when, where in my cycle, how, how long for etc..... this is some journey.
Anonymous4 years ago
Lily! You sound exactly like me!! I could have written your post. I’m 43..
Anonymous6 years ago
I first went to my lovely doctor at 40 as I had started with some symptoms. She assured me I was normal, it was probably the start of peri menopause and not to worry. Her calm approach worked wonders. Now I’m 46 & still ambling through mild-moderate symptoms. I saw my present doc for a review recently & she confirmed peri menopause... I think your doc maybe somewhat ignorant about all this!!
Lowancé6 years ago
46 years old. Had consistent period until May 2020. I had a light period for 4 days. Two weeks later, I had a 2nd period with a more regular flow for about 4- 5 days. The following month, this past June 2020, no period, no spotting. I have a regular clear color, thin discharge , but then again, I’m in a long distance relationship where my partner is stuck in UK and he & I are surviving via texting & sexting. He was supposed to arrive in May and we’re scared because we don’t know when they’ll lift the ban on flying. My sex drive rules my mind, I always have sex on my mind. Therefore, I stressed because I’m incredibly horny, I’m not getting g any, and Im really missing my man. I’m also stressed because I have to wait to see what my body will do the remainder of July. I have also been having head spins. The very first one lasted a few hours, that is each time I tried to get up &and move around as well as feeling nauseated and vomiting. The rest have been subtle. The doctor said my iron was low (I have severe hereditary anemia) and bad cholesterol was high (I’ve gained 30lbs since this March 2020quarantine). All my other blood work came back normal. She gave me a Vertigo patch to wear behind the ear for the head spins, but my intuition tells me this is more than a matter of doubling up on the iron pills. Lastly, I have thumb twitches & and middle finger twitches, they don’t last long,but enough to be concerned. What’s going on? Do I need another blood test? Am I having peri menopause symptoms? What other minerals can I take to fix this? Help!
Kimberly6 years ago
This is unbelievable! I’ve been having finger twitching too! Of course along with every other symptom under the sun... you’re the first person who’s mentioned that so thank you!
Rhinda6 years ago
I was about 48 or so when I started skipping periods and having heavier ones. But it wasn’t until the last few months (now 51) that I started gaining weight, having extremely dry skin and my sex drive is down from being almost insatiable to not wanting it AT ALL. I’ve even lost sensation and am having vaginal dryness. I hate that most of all! I can take joint pain (which I am having as well) but not having a sex drive any longer?? That’s unacceptable. I refuse to grow old like this. I still have life to live and I’d like it to be full! Because of Covid I lost my job so I’m also without insurance and the ability to purchase good supplements. That’s very frustrating for me. So, the best thing I can do for myself is stretch, breathe, exercise, drink plenty of water, pray, and eat a healthy diet of mostly fruit, veggies and nuts (fish occasionally). I’m praying this changes soon for all of us. Thanks for listening. ?
Rebecca6 years ago
That sounds so hard. I’m finding yoga really helpful. I downloaded this app called Down Dog - they had a two week trial and a little thing you could click on if you couldn’t afford to subscribe which opened up a new email message where you could explain to them why you couldn’t afford their app. I got a lovely message back a couple of days later gifting me six months free and 50% off if and when I decide to subscribe. The app itself is so good - yoga videos that you can tailor to what you need. X
Yetiboo506 years ago
I’m 50 and I’ve got a marina coil in me which I’ve had since I was 32 and have no periods from this time. Since I was 24 I developed rheumatoid and psoriatic arthritis along with psoriasis and have severe joint pain in ALL joints from this time. Basically I have other problems which mask any menopausal symptoms. The only way I have realised hI have started the menopause was I have Hot flushes. Though I would like to know if tenderness in the breasts is also a symptom of menopause? Thank you for letting me share my story. I just want to say is that there may be other women who have similar issues with their health and can’t tell if they’re going through the menopause. Thankfully I have a brilliant doctor who is very understanding. From what I have read, this is not always the case unfortunately. If one has a not good GP plus other conditions I can’t imagine how they feel that they could cope.
Rebecca6 years ago
I had really painful breasts for several months at the start of my peri, it’s definitely a symptom. I don’t at the moment, thankfully.
Patti6 years ago
Unfortunately the medical community isn’t trained well in peri menopause. Reaching out to resources like this will help. Bloodwork really doesn’t help because it compares you to a standard that was set decades ago and likely never changed. It doesn’t compare you to what your levels were when you were younger. I started having panic attacks at 45. I went to the doctor and to therapy and no one ever mentioned menopause. Now that I’m 51 I’m sure they were related because I’ve been doing a lot more reading. If you think your symptoms could be related and you are over 40 there is a good chance they are.
Jo6 years ago
I’m definitely peri-menopausal! 48, skin going dry, vaginal dryness and discomfort, sex uncomfortable too. Almost zero on the libido front! Skin itches frequently that it feels like hives. More anxious. Brain fog. Often tired and lethargic. No drive. And just had my longest time between periods, about three months. That coupled with regular low moods. It’s just a joyous experience so far, who dreamt up this process that feels like a punishment for women!!! I’m actually glad of this app as most of my friends are younger than me, so not really anyone to talk about it with.
Nic6 years ago
I agree I am definitely perimenopausal and think I have been longer then when my periods started being disrupted. I had really bad anxiety a couple of years back and frequent brain fog. Only now have I started to miss periods and I am 44.
KittyKat6 years ago
I just turned 46 but I think I may be Peri-menopausal for the last year or so, but I’m really not sure and haven’t plucked up the courage to go to the Docs yet. Night time sweats .... Tick ✔️ (I have a fan that is on constantly during the night ? but no hot flushes during the day) Brain fog ..... Tick ✔️ (I used to be quite an articulate person now I can barely remember the words for things ? think I’m going mad!) Anxiety... Tick ✔️ (Due to personal things in my life my anxiety is through the roof, COVID has not helped and I am now on 50mg Setraline and having counselling) As for my periods they have always been very erratic but now I have a two week build up: sciatica is triggered, IBS is triggered, constipation, possible migraines (numerous) either a week before or after and sometimes during, very heavy periods (highest absorbency tampon plus sanitary towel, lasts two hours! ??) And painful to the point where I cannot move off the sofa. I get very depressed, teary and emotional two days before (on the dot!) as well. I usually have another week after my period for everything to settle down, I’m extremely fatigued and feel totally washed out! Like I’ve been chucked though a spin cycle in the washing machine! ? Even Hubs has been concerned and noticed that things have gotten worse and I’m lucky to have a week or two in between periods, symptom free. Is there any advice anyone would recommend?
Holly6 years ago
Poor you, this sounds awful! You should definitely see your doc. Most of these sound like common perimenopause symptoms but a doc (hopefully you have a good one) should be able to help you confirm and maybe find relief. Good luck!!
Bex6 years ago
I’m 42 and same. I know I’m in peri menopause- couldn’t be expressing more symptoms if they were written on my forehead. But I’m a registered nurse, too, so knew pretty much right after the first night that I woke up in a puddle of sweat! They can do hormone testing, but everything I know says there’s no definitive test. I have experienced the dismissal also, I recommend being more assertive and possibly even seeking a second opinion (or third or fourth) and take care of yourself. Even without a diagnosis, there are ways- a lot of them listed even in this app- that you can be kind to yourself and treat your symptoms and hopefully ease their intensity. Sending good vibes your way!!
Robin6 years ago
So, I’m 38 and and soon after I had my daughter back in January 2018, I was was experiencing what thought was my period trying to work itself out after being pregnant. Eventually my period did return, however in 2019, I started noticing that my periods were coming twice a month, then from there I started noticing that periods would take longer to start. Also, I started having really bad anxiety attacks, hot flashes and night sweats. I got scared so I immediately made an appointment to see my obgyn and he did a complete exam and when I told him about my symptoms he recommended that we do a FSH test. So the first test my result came as 125, which exceeded the range that places you in menopause. He was in disbelief, so he had me test 3 other times and each test confirmed that I was in fact in menopause. As of January 2020, I haven’t had a period in 6 months almost. Some people say that I should be happy, but honestly it stole my ability to enjoy my time with my daughter. The mood swings, night sweats, panic attacks, low libido, the lists goes on and on. I have barely been married almost 3 years and it has affect my initimacy with my husband. After being in denial for so long, now I’m just trying to adjust the best way that I can. I’m just trying to get back to me so I can be the best wife and mom for my husband and daughter. It’s been rough, but with Gods help, it’ll be okay.
Aisyle6 years ago
I told my doctor about hot flashes, insomnia, rapid weight gain, extreme cramps, bloating, and diarrhea two years ago when I was 42. My periods were (and are) still pretty regular, but heavier. She sent me for bloodwork, but all my results came back normal! Apparently, perimenopause can start before one’s hormones fluctuate enough for tests to detect!
MelJ6 years ago
I started Perimenopause at 42, I’m 48 now and the symptoms have been getting steadily worse, I still have periods but they’re all over the place and extremely heavy. When I first went to my (male) g.p he was useless, told me I was far too young despite me telling him that my Mum had an early menopause, I then went to a female g.p and she was fantastic, took the the time to listen to me and has tried her best to help. I do think there should be more done to help women through the menopause, at my g.p surgery most of the doctors specialise in a particular area e.g eyes/skin/pregnancy/fertility etc but not one specialises in the menopause. My Mum passed away quite a while ago so I feel like I’ve not had anyone that I could ask about all the weird symptoms, I just can’t wait for it all to be over, it’s a living hell some days, I’m so envious of the women that sail through it. I tried HRT and at first it really helped but then I started getting awful side effects so I stopped taking them. If I come out of this without being sent to the funny farm it’ll be a miracle!!
Blu6 years ago
Sorry to hear HRT didn’t work out for you! I’m also looking for alternatives and wondered if you tried other treatments and had any success?
Julia (RN, BSN) - Caria Coach6 years ago
Hi Abril, so sorry to hear that you are feeling dismissed by your doctor. Unfortunately, this happens quite often, partly because there is not a good diagnostic tool for perimenopause. Usually, perimenopause is diagnosed based on your age and symptoms, and it sure sounds like you are experiencing some frustrating perimenopause symptoms. You're also at an age where it is quite normal to enter perimenopause. Irregular periods are one of the most obvious signs that you are in perimenopause, so watch for changes in your period (like changes in flow, duration, frequency, spotting, etc.). To strengthen your case with your doctor, keep a log of your symptoms in accordance with your period - you can do this on the Caria app and also export your symptom data to share with your doc. Also, some doctors perform an AMH blood test to see how many follicles you have left in your ovaries. This test can help predict when you will reach menopause. Finally, you know your body best. If you are feeling unheard, it may help to meet with a doctor who specializes in caring for women in menopause. Good luck and keep us in the loop with how you're doing!
Iona5 years ago
How do you know if you need more oestrogen or more progesterone? I’ve started to try to increase soya in my diet but I’m feeling worse. Still having very heavy periods but now every two weeks and debilitating anxiety. Is there a test to see what your body is lacking?
KSKreplying to Iona4 years ago
These are great questions, I wonder the exact same things!
Anonymousreplying to Iona3 years ago
You can't really get those hormones from food. The phytoestrogens found in soy are not treated like estrogen by your body.
Charlie6 years ago
This is an actual medical condition. I really don’t understand why professional medical practitioners treat women like this. I didn’t have anyone to talk to or understand what I was going through for 18 months. It has taken me a lot to accept what I am going through. It is a very personal and lonely place to be. I am glad we have Caria to help us through our individual journeys now. I feel that this sadly for many women a isolating, taboo and laughed at time of life.
Brigette6 years ago
I’m 44 and have been experiencing symptoms for a couple years. Hot flashes, brain fog, skin issues lack of libido. My periods are regular but shorter, heavy heavy on day 1 then day 2 almost nothing and day 3 (if there is a day 3) is also a spotting day. I just got my blood test done and show no signs according to my ob/gyn. I am very low in VitaminD though. Blood test or not, I know my body. I’ll treat my symptoms the natural route until I can find a doctor who can help me.
MelJ6 years ago
I totally understand this! I had my DD at 34 and after 18 months one day it was like someone turned the light off; my zingyness has gone, Periods irregular, extreme fatigue, aches, massive mood problems, palpitations, anxiety, Libido non existent, dryness everywhere (mouth, nose, and down below). My mum was 37 when she started menopause, so there was a possibility that these symptoms were “it”. My GP has been nigh on useless. He did send me for a hormone test and checked thyroid, both back fine - but if peri menopause it won’t necessarily capture. Gave me mirena IUD (this only masks a problem and makes it more “convenient” from a mans perspective - in fact this is why he gave it me because I mentioned hubby was complaining), given me ADs for anxiety (still on these buggers!), had a heart monitor for one night to check for any irregularities...this was first 3 years of keep going to him as he wouldn’t accept it could be menopausal/perimenopause. Last year started developing acne and after another “mention” of hubby’s inconvenience with dryness I was given something topics for acne and a HRT type pessary - which I don’t use as I read up after and decided they were too risky for me. I’m now 42 and after appointment after appointment of “I’m a man I don’t understand women’s things” and laughing and then “aches are part of life” I now have no faith in going to him. My most recent development has been loss of taste and smell and cholinergic urticaria (my pharmacist friend diagnosed this not my GP) which GP has said must’ve been COVID!! And my weird dizzy feeling must be my epilepsy?!?!! But mum had exactly the same; lost smell and taste and prickly heat and he just doesn’t want to know! So, in summary, your symptoms do seem to be perimenopausal in my experience. These ladies on here have done more to settle my worries in the short time I’ve had the app than my GP has done for 5 years. If you are able, go to another GP. My GP is partner at practice and they won’t allow you to see someone else unless an emergency, and we live rurally so I’m a bit stuck, although considering the options of travelling out of boundary. However if you don’t do it now you’ll feel as unconfident as I do - wondering if I go elsewhere another doctor will they think “it’s just life” and laugh too ? take care, you know your body better than anyone and go get help and persevere. Good luck and huge peri menopausal hugs to you ?
Tonya6 years ago
I’m 41 and I had a hysterectomy a year and half ago. I’ve been been getting hot flashes, night sweats, and other symptoms way since I was 36. Went to my obgyn, they did bloodwork, and she said my results doesn’t show menopause. I’ve had people tell me the bloodwork doesn’t show if you’re peri menopause. I don’t know what to take to help. I feel like I’m losing my mind.
Cilb6 years ago
I am sorry you are feeling so low. Have you tried taking herbal supplements and a multivitamin for 40+ women? Pukka menopause and Viridian both do supplements for 40+. I am 42 and I have experienced symptoms on off for at least 2 years. I have started taking Viridian high-five multivitamin and I am now trying the Pukka one. I have found the vit B complex have helped me with anxiety, fatigue and brain fog. Menopase is another supplements that have a good dose of B vitamins as well as soy. You can find these supplements on line in sites like Holland barret, body kind or Viridian website. I found out if I wait for my GP I would be in trouble, as I have been dismissed many times for being “too young”, so I am doing my own research in menopause and having you ladies here to talk to has greatly helped! I hope you feel better soon, you are not alone! Sending you a big hug!
Allie6 years ago
I’m 45, regular periods, very painful for the first 2/3 days, heavy thick clots. Migraines for 3 days then they go which can vary month to month. My breasts can be very heavy, tender and also sensitive but that can also vary each month. Bloatness as well. I’ve been to the Gp about this which they look at me as if I’m too young. My mum finished roughly early 50’s which I’m not that far off. I’ve even requested to have my bloods taken just to confirm if I’m in my perimenopause. That way I know I’m on the right track if that makes sense. My moods can change a week before my periods and lately I can get emotional too?!
Lisa6 years ago
I’m 45 with 7 births, my last one at age 39, prior to that at age 35. (Old mom) Currently in perimenopause and my doctor says I’ve probably been in it for 5 or 6 years. She expects me to cease periods in 1 to 2 years. Some women start in their 40’s of course!
Lee5 years ago
I’ve been reading several articles. And for the past year things have definitely been changing for me and I feel like you all have written my story for me. I’m only just barely 44 so I didn’t think I was quite there yet. I have no mother to speak to about this and my older sisters have not yet dealt with this. (So not fair) but all that I’ve read seems to confirm my suspicions that I’m in Perimenopause. I cannot tell you how relieved I am to know that heart palpitations are one of the common symptoms. I tend to only feel them when I’m laying down but they come as flutters or quickening feeling to what amounts to feeling like a spirit just slammed itself into my chest. Thank god I’m not crazy and honestly having had my heart checked already because this concerned me and nothing was found just all the more confirms that this is peri menopause related palpitations. Now why when I spoke to my doctor about everything I was experiencing with my chest feelings and having given him the low down on my outrageously inconsistent periods did he not mention that it could be palpitations caused by peri M I don’t know. Maybe I need to ask for a smarter doctor.
Anonymous5 years ago
I’m in my 30s with similar sounding symptoms, except they are almost bipolar, in that they bounce back in the extreme opposite direction. I’m hoping it’s a hormone imbalance and will try to keep u posted.
Susan5 years ago
Just turned 47... first month without a period (usually regular) ummm really dove into hot flashes this last month and insomnia as the most common symptoms... definitely brain fog at times... need to see if there is anything that can lessen the on set of hot flashes? Any suggestions? Vitamins/supplement recommendations? Thanks!
Lou ?5 years ago
I’m 49 in February. For the last I’d say 8 months. I’ve had sweats throughout the day on and off. My periods are pretty regular still, but so so heavy. I’m not experiencing night sweats yet. I all of a sudden one morning woke up during lockdown and feel like a beach whale. I’ve put 3 stone on. The hot flushes aren’t as bad but I get cramp and joint pain a lot. Could anyone recommend what would be the best supplement or vitamins to help. I’m really new to all this and have no clue if I’m perimenaposaul or not. Thankyou
Walks Through Fire5 years ago
I'm sorry, too, you got dismissed. Unless the doc was a female OB, the dismissal REALLY may have been their way to hide their ignorance. If med school curriculum hasn't changed substantially in 20 years- it's just not taught. No one should ever feel like their doc gave a glib dismissive answer. More professional would have been "everyone starts it differently. Tell me again what you've noticed and fir how long and I'll read up on what this means about the likelihood of menopause, snd how to address or not address it in any case"
Amanda4 years ago
I’m 46 and have had abnormal periods for at least 10 years. It was hard to get pregnant also but I did. I have 2 boys before the changes and a girl after. My gynecologist told me I was in peri menopause then. I became regular again and within the past year my period has gotten heavier and longer. I haven’t had one for 2 months now. It’s just weird. My regular doctor also says I’m going through peri menopause. I have a lot of the symptoms you have the worst is migraines and fogginess.
Anonymous4 years ago
Hi Abril, they can see your levels of hormones in a blood test . I had my uterus taken out after my 3 rd child and I am now pre-menopause, I know because of the blood test and since some months back now some symptoms.
Anonymous4 years ago
I wasn’t sure either when I begin. Then I found this app. So glad I did!
Anonymous4 years ago
Sorry you are feeling this way. I have had some feelings like this, but now I’m seeing a Lady Doctor. She is more understanding. Lol. According to the article in the lesson I’m toward the latter part! I am 55. I have had some of the side affects but not all. I can’t tell you how that compares with family because I the first one that has went through it Naturally. Hang in there mine has gotten better. You will get through it also.
Taia4 years ago
I definitely can tell that I’m in perimenapause because I’m struggling with my moods and anxiety and night sweats. I’m also dealing with tastebud changing,which I didn’t know happened during this?
Latasha McG😌🙏1 year ago
Hi Abril, I’m sorry you're experiencing these symptoms and not getting any help from your doctor. I am 47, but I also started having symptoms when I was 46. It took me an entire year of suffering with these symptoms and going back-and-forth between my primary care doctor, my Rheumatologist, and my Hematologist, before mu menstrual cycle finally went berserk and I figured it had something to do with women issues. My primary care doctor also thought I was too young to go through perimenopause, but I asked him to refer me to a women’s healthcare doctor which he did. I don't think there is an actual way to absolutely say that you are going through perimenopause, but what the gynecologist was able to confirm is that I was losing estrogen and testosterone, which points in the direction of perimenopause. I know for a fact because of all the crazy things that started happening that I was in perimenopause. Just make sure your doctor KNOWS that you are not too young. That you can actually start in your early 40s and some people even younger. And no matter what, have them refer you to a gynecologist. Prayers for you my dear🙏.
Anonymous1 year ago
It’s very confusing. My symptoms indicate peri transition but my blood work menopause. My age is also older than most. Still trying to work it out.